Friendship Selection Framework
Choose friends who provide benefits
The Friendship Selection Framework, proposed by Tooby and Cosmides (1996), suggests that individuals should select friends who provide benefits, such as positive externalities, shared values, and irreplaceability. This framework is based on the idea that people are more likely to form and maintain friendships with those who provide benefits that are not readily available from others.
- Select friends who provide positive externalities.
- Choose friends who share your values and provide benefits that are not readily available from others.
- Prioritize friends who consider you irreplaceable.
- Evaluate potential friendsAssess the benefits that potential friends can provide, such as positive externalities, shared values, and irreplaceability.Pro tipConsider seeking feedback from others to gain a more objective perspective.WarningBe cautious not to prioritize short-term benefits over long-term relationships.
- Prioritize friends who provide benefitsFocus on forming and maintaining relationships with friends who provide benefits that are not readily available from others.Pro tipInvest time and effort into nurturing these relationships.WarningBe mindful of the opportunity cost of investing time and resources into relationships.
- Monitor and adjust friendshipsRegularly evaluate the benefits and costs of your friendships and adjust your relationships accordingly.Pro tipBe willing to terminate relationships that are no longer beneficial or that have become toxic.WarningBe cautious not to overemphasize the benefits of friendships, as this can lead to an overinvestment of time and resources.
A business partnership may form between two individuals who provide complementary skills and expertise, leading to a mutually beneficial relationship.
A romantic relationship may form between two individuals who share values and provide benefits to each other, such as emotional support and companionship.
The concept of friendship selection is rooted in evolutionary psychology, where individuals who are able to form and maintain relationships with others who provide benefits are more likely to increase their fitness and well-being.