The Barrier to Entry Framework
Create barriers to entry, not exit
This framework is about creating barriers to entry, rather than exit, in a marriage. It's about making it more difficult to get into a marriage, rather than making it easier to get out.
- Commitment is key to a strong marriage
- Creating barriers to entry can help couples think more carefully about their decision to get married
- Making it more difficult to get into a marriage can help prevent divorce
- Create a barrier to entryMake it more difficult to get into a marriage by creating a barrier to entry, such as a waiting period or a test.Pro tipBe creative and come up with a barrier that works for you and your partner.WarningDon't make the barrier too difficult, or it may prevent you from getting married at all.
- Discuss the barrier with your partnerTalk to your partner about the barrier you have created and make sure you are both on the same page.Pro tipBe open and honest with each other about your concerns and fears.WarningDon't assume that your partner will agree with the barrier - be prepared to compromise.
The couple who created a waiting period
A couple created a waiting period of 6 months before getting married, which gave them time to think carefully about their decision and make sure they were fully committed to each other.
OutcomeThe couple was able to create a strong and committed marriage.
Not creating a barrier to entry
If you don't create a barrier to entry, you may not be able to prevent divorce or make your marriage more committed.
The idea for this framework came from James Sexton's observation that many couples get married without fully considering the commitment they are making. He realized that creating barriers to entry could help couples think more carefully about their decision to get married.
Source · PODCAST
Contracts of Love & Money That Make or Break Relationships | James Sexton