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Women's Resistance to Mate Guarding Framework

Tactics to evade overzealous mate guarding

Problem it solves

lack of influence

Best for

Women in relationships with controlling partners

Not ideal for

Women in healthy, balanced relationships

Overview

Why this framework exists

This framework outlines the tactics women use to resist mate guarding by their partners. It includes covert tactics, avoiding public displays of affection, suppressing aggression, and resisting control. The framework is based on the idea that women will evolve adaptations to resist mate guarding if it is recurrently harmful to them.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Women will evolve adaptations to resist mate guarding if it is recurrently harmful to them.
  2. Mate guarding can be costly to women, limiting their freedom and autonomy.
  3. Women will use covert tactics to evade mate guarding, including hiding information and avoiding public displays of affection.

Steps

3 steps
  1. Identify the costs of mate guarding
    Women need to recognize the costs of mate guarding, including the limitation of their freedom and autonomy. This can include feeling trapped, monitored, or controlled by their partner.
    Pro tipKeep a journal to track incidents of mate guarding and how they make you feel.
    WarningBe cautious of partners who become overly controlling or possessive.
  2. Use covert tactics to evade mate guarding
    Women can use covert tactics, such as hiding information or avoiding public displays of affection, to evade mate guarding. This can help them maintain their freedom and autonomy in the relationship.
    Pro tipBe careful not to arouse suspicion or provoke your partner's jealousy.
    WarningCovert tactics can be risky and may lead to conflict if discovered.
  3. Suppress aggression and resist control
    Women can suppress their partner's aggression and resist control by setting boundaries and communicating their needs. This can help them maintain their autonomy and freedom in the relationship.
    Pro tipPractice assertive communication and set clear boundaries.
    WarningResisting control can be challenging and may require support from friends, family, or a therapist.

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Examples

1 cases
The woman who used covert tactics to evade her partner's mate guarding

A woman used covert tactics, such as hiding information and avoiding public displays of affection, to evade her partner's mate guarding. She felt trapped and controlled by her partner and wanted to maintain her freedom and autonomy in the relationship.

OutcomeThe woman was able to maintain her freedom and autonomy in the relationship, but her partner eventually discovered her covert tactics, leading to conflict and a re-evaluation of the relationship.

Common mistakes

2 traps
Underestimating the costs of mate guarding
Women may underestimate the costs of mate guarding, including the limitation of their freedom and autonomy. This can lead to feelings of resentment and frustration in the relationship.
Using covert tactics without a plan
Women may use covert tactics without a plan, which can lead to conflict and discovery by their partner. It's essential to have a plan and consider the potential consequences of using covert tactics.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The framework was developed by evolutionary psychologist Alita Cousins and her colleagues, who discovered six tactics women use to evade overzealous mate guarding. The tactics are designed to help women maintain their freedom and autonomy in relationships.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
When Men Behave Badly The Hidden Roots of Sexual
David M Buss · 2020
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