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Abuse Hijacks Victim Psychology Framework

Abuse manipulates victim psychology

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Understanding the psychological effects of abuse on victims

Not ideal for

Those seeking a simple or quick solution to addressing abuse

Overview

Why this framework exists

This framework describes how abuse can hijack a victim's psychology, leading to a loss of self-esteem, shame, and a shift in their welfare trade-off ratio. It highlights six key tactics used by abusers to manipulate their victims, including physical abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, threats of future harm, and controlling behavior.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Abuse can lower a victim's self-esteem and make them more dependent on the abuser.
  2. Abuse can create shame and self-isolation in the victim, making it harder for them to seek help.
  3. Abuse can alter a victim's welfare trade-off ratio, leading them to prioritize the abuser's wants and needs above their own.

Steps

3 steps
  1. Recognize the signs of abuse
    Identify the physical and emotional signs of abuse, including bruises, scars, and changes in behavior.
    Pro tipPay attention to subtle changes in behavior, such as a person becoming more withdrawn or isolated.
    WarningAbuse can be hidden, and victims may not always be willing to disclose their experiences.
  2. Understand the tactics used by abusers
    Learn about the six key tactics used by abusers to manipulate their victims, including physical abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, threats of future harm, and controlling behavior.
    Pro tipBe aware of the ways in which abusers can use gaslighting and emotional manipulation to control their victims.
    WarningAbusers may use multiple tactics to manipulate their victims, making it harder to recognize and address the abuse.
  3. Support victims of abuse
    Provide emotional support and resources to victims of abuse, including counseling, shelter, and legal assistance.
    Pro tipListen to the victim's story and believe their experiences, without judgment or blame.
    WarningVictims of abuse may be hesitant to seek help due to shame, fear, or loyalty to the abuser.

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Examples

1 cases
A woman who is physically and emotionally abused by her partner

The woman is isolated from her friends and family, and her partner controls her access to resources and information. She is hesitant to seek help due to shame and fear of retaliation.

OutcomeThe woman eventually seeks help from a shelter and counseling services, and is able to leave the abusive relationship and rebuild her life.

Common mistakes

2 traps
Minimizing the severity of abuse
Downplaying the severity of abuse or blaming the victim can exacerbate the problem and make it harder for victims to seek help.
Failing to recognize the signs of abuse
Not recognizing the physical and emotional signs of abuse can lead to delayed or inadequate intervention.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The framework is based on research in evolutionary psychology and sexual conflict theory, which suggests that men's use of violence and abuse can be an adaptive strategy to control and manipulate their partners.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
When Men Behave Badly The Hidden Roots of Sexual
David M Buss · 2020
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