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Feelings Vocabulary Framework

Express feelings clearly

Problem it solves

poor communication

Best for

Individuals seeking to improve their communication skills

Not ideal for

Those who struggle with self-awareness or emotional intelligence

Overview

Why this framework exists

The Feelings Vocabulary Framework is a tool for developing a vocabulary of feelings that allows individuals to clearly and specifically name or identify their emotions. This framework is essential for effective communication and conflict resolution. By using this framework, individuals can connect more easily with one another and resolve conflicts in a more efficient manner.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Feelings are not the same as thoughts or assessments.
  2. Using a vocabulary of feelings can help individuals connect more easily with one another.
  3. Expressing vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

Steps

4 steps
  1. Identify and Label Feelings
    Develop a vocabulary of feelings to clearly and specifically name or identify emotions. Use words that refer to specific emotions, rather than vague or general terms.
    Pro tipPractice using 'I' statements to express feelings, rather than 'you' statements that can come across as accusatory.
    WarningBe aware of the difference between feelings and thoughts or assessments.
  2. Distinguish Between Feelings and Thoughts
    Recognize the difference between feelings and thoughts or assessments. Use the Feelings Vocabulary Framework to identify and express feelings in a clear and specific manner.
    Pro tipUse the framework to develop a vocabulary of feelings that can help individuals connect more easily with one another.
    WarningAvoid using words that describe what we think others are doing or how we think others are evaluating us.
  3. Express Vulnerability
    Expressing vulnerability can help resolve conflicts. Use the Feelings Vocabulary Framework to express feelings and needs in a clear and specific manner.
    Pro tipBe open and honest about your feelings and needs, and try to understand the feelings and needs of others.
    WarningBe aware of the potential risks of expressing vulnerability, but also recognize the potential benefits.
  4. Practice Active Listening
    Practice active listening to understand the feelings and needs of others. Use the Feelings Vocabulary Framework to identify and express feelings in a clear and specific manner.
    Pro tipGive your full attention to the speaker, and try to understand their perspective.
    WarningAvoid interrupting or dismissing the speaker's feelings or needs.

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Examples

2 cases
Expressing Feelings in a Conflict

In a conflict, one person uses the Feelings Vocabulary Framework to express their feelings and needs. The other person listens actively and tries to understand their perspective.

OutcomeThe conflict is resolved, and the relationship is improved.
Using the Framework in a Professional Setting

An individual uses the Feelings Vocabulary Framework in a professional setting to express their feelings and needs. The framework helps to resolve a conflict and improve communication.

OutcomeThe individual's relationships with their colleagues are improved, and the work environment is more positive.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Confusing Feelings with Thoughts
One common mistake is confusing feelings with thoughts or assessments. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.
Using Vague or General Terms
Using vague or general terms to express feelings can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. Instead, use specific and clear language to express feelings.
Not Expressing Vulnerability
Not expressing vulnerability can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings. Expressing vulnerability can help resolve conflicts and improve relationships.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The Feelings Vocabulary Framework was developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg as part of his Nonviolent Communication (NVC) approach. Rosenberg recognized the importance of expressing feelings and needs in a clear and specific manner to resolve conflicts and improve relationships.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Marshall B. Rosenberg · 2015
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