MINDSETDays to result

Suprasternal Notch Touch

Self-soothing gesture

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Individuals looking to improve their emotional intelligence and self-awareness

Not ideal for

Those who are not interested in nonverbal communication

Overview

Why this framework exists

The suprasternal notch is a point at the hollow of the neck where the collarbones meet. People touch this area when they feel distressed, threatened, or insecure. This behavior is a self-soothing gesture that can indicate anxiety or stress. Understanding this cue can help individuals better navigate social interactions and build stronger relationships.

Core principles

3 total
  1. People touch their suprasternal notch when they feel anxious or stressed.
  2. This behavior is a self-soothing gesture that can help individuals calm down.
  3. Understanding nonverbal cues like the suprasternal notch touch can improve emotional intelligence and self-awareness.

Steps

3 steps
  1. Observe the behavior
    Pay attention to when people touch their suprasternal notch, and try to understand the context in which it occurs.
    Pro tipNotice if the behavior is accompanied by other nonverbal cues, such as avoiding eye contact or fidgeting.
    WarningBe aware that this behavior can be a subtle cue, and it may not always be easy to notice.
  2. Consider the context
    Think about the situation in which the behavior is occurring, and try to understand what may be causing the individual to feel anxious or stressed.
    Pro tipTake into account the individual's baseline behavior and personality traits.
    WarningAvoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions based on a single observation.
  3. Respond empathetically
    If you notice someone touching their suprasternal notch, try to respond in a way that is empathetic and supportive.
    Pro tipUse active listening skills and ask open-ended questions to help the individual feel more at ease.
    WarningAvoid being confrontational or accusatory, as this can exacerbate the situation.

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Examples

2 cases
Job interview

During a job interview, the candidate touches their suprasternal notch when asked about their weaknesses. The interviewer notices this behavior and responds by asking follow-up questions in a supportive and non-confrontational way.

OutcomeThe candidate feels more at ease and is able to provide a more honest and open response.
First date

On a first date, the person touches their suprasternal notch when talking about their ex-partner. The other person notices this behavior and responds by sharing a similar experience and showing empathy.

OutcomeThe person feels more comfortable and opens up more about their feelings and experiences.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Misinterpreting the behavior
Failing to consider the context and individual differences can lead to misinterpreting the suprasternal notch touch as a sign of deception or dishonesty.
Overlooking other cues
Focusing too much on the suprasternal notch touch can lead to overlooking other important nonverbal cues that may be present.
Not responding empathetically
Failing to respond in a supportive and empathetic way can exacerbate the situation and make the individual feel more anxious or stressed.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The suprasternal notch touch is a universal human behavior that has been observed across cultures. It is a subtle cue that can reveal an individual's emotional state and provide insight into their thoughts and feelings.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101
Vanessa Edwards · 2013
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