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The Permission Framework

Giving yourself permission to make choices

Problem it solves

self-doubt or seeking external validation

Best for

Individuals who struggle with self-doubt or seeking external validation

Not ideal for

Those who are already confident in their decision-making abilities

Overview

Why this framework exists

The Permission Framework is about giving yourself permission to make choices and pursue your desires. It involves recognizing that you have the power to make decisions and take action, without needing external validation or permission.

Core principles

3 total
  1. You have the power to make choices and take action
  2. Don't seek external validation or permission
  3. Trust yourself and your abilities

Steps

3 steps
  1. Recognize Your Power
    Acknowledge that you have the power to make choices and take action. Recognize that you are capable of making decisions and pursuing your desires
    Pro tipReflect on times when you have made successful decisions or taken action
    WarningDon't let self-doubt or fear hold you back
  2. Let Go of the Need for External Validation
    Release the need for external validation or permission. Recognize that you don't need others to approve of your choices or actions
    Pro tipPractice self-reflection and self-trust
    WarningDon't seek validation from others, as it can be fleeting and unreliable
  3. Take Action
    Take action and make choices that align with your values and desires. Trust yourself and your abilities
    Pro tipCelebrate your successes and learn from your failures
    WarningDon't be afraid to take risks and make mistakes

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Examples

2 cases
Pursuing a Dream Career

A person who wants to pursue a dream career, but is hesitant due to fear or self-doubt. They must give themselves permission to take the leap and pursue their passion

OutcomeThey find success and fulfillment in their career
Ending a Toxic Relationship

A person who is in a toxic relationship, but is hesitant to end it due to fear or self-doubt. They must give themselves permission to take action and prioritize their own well-being

OutcomeThey find freedom and empowerment in their decision

Common mistakes

3 traps
Seeking External Validation
Seeking validation or permission from others, rather than trusting oneself and one's abilities
Self-Doubt
Allowing self-doubt or fear to hold you back from making choices or taking action
Not Trusting Yourself
Not trusting oneself or one's abilities, and instead seeking external validation or permission

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The concept of giving oneself permission was mentioned by Lori Gottlieb as a key aspect of personal growth and development. It is about recognizing that you have the power to make choices and take action, without needing external validation or permission.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · PODCAST
How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
Andrew Huberman · 2025
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