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The Story Editing Framework

Rewrite your narrative

Problem it solves

The Story Editing Framework solves the challenge of ineffective communication by providing frameworks for clearer, more impactful message delivery and understanding.

Best for

Individuals seeking to improve their relationships and self-awareness

Not ideal for

Those who struggle with self-reflection or are not open to changing their narrative

Overview

Why this framework exists

The Story Editing Framework is a methodical process for rewriting negative stories and narratives that hold us back in our relationships and personal growth. It involves breaking down the story, identifying faulty narratives, and editing them to create a more accurate and empowering story. This framework is based on the idea that our stories and narratives shape our experiences and relationships, and that by changing our story, we can change our lives.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Our stories and narratives shape our experiences and relationships.
  2. We have the power to rewrite our stories and create a more empowering narrative.
  3. Presence and self-awareness are essential for rewriting our stories and creating positive change.

Steps

4 steps
  1. Identify the story
    Recognize the negative story or narrative that is holding you back. This may involve reflecting on past experiences, relationships, or patterns of thought and behavior.
    Pro tipBe honest with yourself and try to identify the root cause of the story.
    WarningBe careful not to get caught up in negative self-talk or self-blame.
  2. Break down the story
    Break down the story into its component parts, including the events, characters, and emotions involved. This will help you to understand the story and its impact on your life.
    Pro tipUse a journal or writing prompt to help you break down the story.
    WarningBe careful not to get overwhelmed by the complexity of the story.
  3. Edit the story
    Rewrite the story in a way that is more empowering and accurate. This may involve challenging negative self-talk, reframing negative experiences, or finding new perspectives on past events.
    Pro tipUse positive self-talk and affirmations to help you rewrite the story.
    WarningBe careful not to distort or deny the truth of the story.
  4. Practice presence
    Practice being present in the moment, without judgment or attachment to the story. This will help you to stay grounded and focused on the present, rather than getting caught up in negative thoughts or emotions.
    Pro tipUse mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing to help you stay present.
    WarningBe careful not to use presence as a way to avoid or escape from difficult emotions or experiences.

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Examples

2 cases
Rewriting a negative story about a past relationship

A person who has been through a difficult breakup may have a negative story about themselves or their ex-partner. By rewriting this story in a more empowering way, they can create a more positive and resilient narrative that helps them to move forward.

OutcomeThe person is able to let go of negative emotions and move forward with greater confidence and self-awareness.
Using presence to stay grounded in a challenging situation

A person who is experiencing a challenging situation, such as a conflict with a friend or family member, may feel overwhelmed or anxious. By practicing presence and staying grounded in the moment, they can respond more thoughtfully and effectively to the situation.

OutcomeThe person is able to navigate the situation with greater ease and confidence, and is able to find a more positive and constructive resolution.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Getting caught up in negative self-talk
It's easy to get caught up in negative self-talk and self-blame when trying to rewrite our stories. However, this can reinforce negative patterns and make it harder to create positive change.
Distorting or denying the truth of the story
While it's important to rewrite our stories in a more empowering way, it's also important to be honest and accurate. Distorting or denying the truth of the story can undermine our credibility and make it harder to create positive change.
Avoiding or escaping from difficult emotions or experiences
It's tempting to avoid or escape from difficult emotions or experiences, but this can prevent us from fully engaging with our stories and creating positive change. Instead, we need to learn to approach these experiences with curiosity and openness.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

Lori Gottlieb developed this framework through her work as a therapist and writer, recognizing the importance of narrative in shaping our experiences and relationships.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · PODCAST
How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
Andrew Huberman · 2025
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