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Requesting That Which Would Enrich Life

Make requests that enrich life

Problem it solves

poor communication

Best for

Individuals seeking to improve their communication skills

Not ideal for

Those who struggle with self-reflection and empathy

Overview

Why this framework exists

Requesting That Which Would Enrich Life is a framework for making requests that are clear, specific, and focused on enriching life. It involves using positive language, avoiding vague or abstract requests, and focusing on concrete actions that others can undertake.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Requests should be clear and specific.
  2. Requests should focus on enriching life.
  3. Requests should avoid vague or abstract language.

Steps

2 steps
  1. Use positive language
    Use positive language when making requests, focusing on what you want rather than what you don't want.
    Pro tipUse specific and concrete language to describe the desired outcome.
    WarningAvoid using negative language or focusing on what you don't want.
  2. Focus on concrete actions
    Focus on concrete actions that others can undertake, rather than vague or abstract requests.
    Pro tipUse specific and measurable language to describe the desired action.
    WarningAvoid using ambiguous or open-ended language.

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Examples

1 cases
High school students and principal

A group of high school students use Requesting That Which Would Enrich Life to make clear and specific requests to their principal, resulting in a more positive and supportive outcome.

OutcomeThe principal agrees to all of the students' requests, and the students feel heard and understood.

Common mistakes

2 traps
Using negative language
Using negative language can lead to confusion and resistance, rather than clarity and cooperation.
Making vague requests
Making vague or abstract requests can lead to misunderstandings and unmet needs.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The concept of Requesting That Which Would Enrich Life is rooted in the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), which emphasizes the importance of empathy, honesty, and understanding in human interactions. By making requests that enrich life, individuals can create a more supportive and compassionate environment for open communication.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Marshall B. Rosenberg · 2015
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