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Vigilance and Information Gathering

Gathering cues to inform mate guarding strategies

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Gathering information to inform mate guarding strategies

Not ideal for

Those who are not willing to consider the potential for deception or coercion

Overview

Why this framework exists

This framework explores the importance of vigilance and information gathering in mate guarding strategies, including the use of verbal and nonverbal signals to gather cues and evidence.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Vigilance is a key component of mate guarding strategies, as it allows individuals to gather information and assess potential threats.
  2. Information gathering can be used to inform mate guarding strategies, but it is important to be aware of the potential for deception and coercion.
  3. Verbal and nonverbal signals can be used to gather cues and evidence, but it is important to consider the potential for biased perceptions and overestimation of the threat.

Steps

3 steps
  1. Identify potential threats
    Determine whether there are potential threats to the relationship, such as a partner's infidelity or a rival's interest.
    Pro tipConsider the cultural context and the partner's mate value when evaluating the threat.
    WarningBe aware of the potential for biased perceptions and overestimation of the threat.
  2. Gather information
    Collect cues and evidence to inform mate guarding strategies, using verbal and nonverbal signals.
    Pro tipBe aware of the potential for deception and coercion, and consider the partner's motivations.
    WarningBe cautious not to overstep boundaries or engage in coercive behaviors.
  3. Evaluate the information
    Assess the potential threat and determine the best course of action, considering the partner's motivations and the cultural context.
    Pro tipBe aware of the potential for biased perceptions and overestimation of the threat.
    WarningBe cautious not to engage in coercive or manipulative behaviors.

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Examples

2 cases
The man's vigilance

A man may become vigilant and start gathering information when he suspects that his partner is interested in someone else.

OutcomeThe man's vigilance illustrates the importance of considering the potential for deception and coercion when gathering information.
The woman's information gathering

A woman may gather information by asking her partner questions or by observing his behavior, in order to inform her mate guarding strategies.

OutcomeThe woman's information gathering illustrates the importance of considering the partner's motivations and the cultural context when evaluating the threat.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Overestimating the threat
Overestimating the threat can lead to unnecessary mate guarding or mate poaching behaviors, which can damage the relationship.
Underestimating the threat
Underestimating the threat can lead to complacency and a lack of preparedness for potential relationship threats.
Using coercive behaviors
Using coercive behaviors, such as violence or emotional manipulation, can damage the relationship and the partner's well-being.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The framework is based on research by David M Buss and others, who have studied the role of vigilance and information gathering in mate guarding behaviors.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
When Men Behave Badly The Hidden Roots of Sexual
David M Buss · 2020
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