MINDSETMonths to result

Dual Process Model of Bereavement

Oscillating between loss and restoration

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Individuals who have experienced a significant loss

Not ideal for

Those who are not ready to confront their grief

Overview

Why this framework exists

The dual process model of bereavement proposes that individuals will oscillate between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented coping. Loss-oriented coping involves confronting and processing the loss, while restoration-oriented coping involves rebuilding and finding new meaning and purpose in life. The model suggests that individuals will move back and forth between these two types of coping, with the goal of eventually finding a sense of integration and acceptance.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Individuals will oscillate between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented coping.
  2. Loss-oriented coping involves confronting and processing the loss.
  3. Restoration-oriented coping involves rebuilding and finding new meaning and purpose in life.

Steps

3 steps
  1. Confront and process the loss
    Allow yourself to feel and express your emotions related to the loss.
    Pro tipEngage in activities that promote self-reflection and mindfulness, such as journaling or talking to a therapist.
    WarningAvoiding or denying the loss can lead to increased anxiety and decreased personal growth.
  2. Rebuild and find new meaning and purpose
    Engage in activities and pursuits that give life meaning and purpose, such as building relationships, pursuing hobbies, or working towards personal goals.
    Pro tipIdentify values and passions that align with your sense of purpose and meaning.
    WarningLack of meaning and purpose can lead to feelings of emptiness and disconnection.
  3. Oscillate between loss-oriented and restoration-oriented coping
    Allow yourself to move back and forth between confronting and processing the loss and rebuilding and finding new meaning and purpose.
    Pro tipBe patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate the grieving process.
    WarningForcing yourself to stay in one type of coping can lead to increased anxiety and decreased personal growth.

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Examples

1 cases
The story of the older man who lost his wife

The older man shares his experience of losing his wife and how he was able to find new meaning and purpose in his life despite his grief.

OutcomeThe older man was able to rebuild his life and find happiness again, while still acknowledging and processing his loss.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Avoiding or denying the loss
Avoiding or denying the loss can lead to increased anxiety and decreased personal growth.
Lack of meaning and purpose
Lack of meaning and purpose can lead to feelings of emptiness and disconnection.
Forcing oneself to stay in one type of coping
Forcing oneself to stay in one type of coping can lead to increased anxiety and decreased personal growth.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The dual process model of bereavement was first introduced by psychologists Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut in the 1990s. The model was developed to explain the complex and dynamic process of grief and bereavement.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · PODCAST
Healing From Grief & Loss | Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor
Andrew Huberman · 2025
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