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Transmutation Framework

Transforming energy

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Individuals experiencing grief or loss

Not ideal for

Those who are not willing to confront their emotions

Overview

Why this framework exists

The Transmutation Framework is based on the idea that we can take the energy of something, such as grief, and transform it into something else that is functional. This framework recognizes that grief is a natural and fundamental part of the attachment circuitry and that we are born into the world prepared to grieve. The framework emphasizes the importance of support during the grieving process and the need to reassess our attachment hierarchy after a loss.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Grief is a natural and fundamental part of the attachment circuitry.
  2. We are born into the world prepared to grieve.
  3. Support is crucial during the grieving process.

Steps

4 steps
  1. Acknowledge and accept grief
    Recognize that grief is a natural response to loss and that it is okay to feel pain and sadness. Acknowledge the loss and give yourself permission to grieve.
    Pro tipAllow yourself to feel your emotions, rather than trying to suppress them.
    WarningAvoid using substances or other coping mechanisms to numb your emotions.
  2. Seek support
    Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support during the grieving process. Support can help you feel less alone and more resilient.
    Pro tipConsider joining a bereavement group or support group to connect with others who are going through a similar experience.
    WarningBe cautious of unsupportive or toxic relationships that may hinder your healing process.
  3. Reassess attachment hierarchy
    After a loss, reassess your attachment hierarchy and recognize that your primary attachment figure may have changed. This can be a difficult and painful process, but it is necessary for healing.
    Pro tipTake time to reflect on your relationships and prioritize self-care and support.
    WarningAvoid rushing into new relationships or attachments as a way to cope with grief.
  4. Practice self-care
    Take care of your physical and emotional needs during the grieving process. This can include exercise, meditation, or other activities that bring you comfort and relaxation.
    Pro tipPrioritize sleep, nutrition, and hydration to help regulate your emotions and support your overall health.
    WarningAvoid neglecting your physical health or using unhealthy coping mechanisms.

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Examples

2 cases
Bereavement group

A bereavement group can provide a safe and supportive environment for individuals to process their grief and connect with others who are going through a similar experience.

OutcomeIndividuals who participate in bereavement groups may experience a sense of community and support, which can help them feel less alone and more resilient during the grieving process.
Personal reflection

Taking time to reflect on your relationships and prioritize self-care can help you navigate the grieving process and reassess your attachment hierarchy.

OutcomeIndividuals who take the time to reflect on their relationships and prioritize self-care may experience a sense of clarity and direction, which can help them move forward in the healing process.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Suppressing emotions
Suppressing emotions can prolong the grieving process and make it more difficult to heal.
Lack of support
Not seeking support during the grieving process can make it more challenging to cope with emotions and navigate the healing process.
Rushing into new relationships
Rushing into new relationships or attachments can be a way to avoid dealing with grief, but it can also hinder the healing process and lead to further emotional pain.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The concept of transmutation comes from Eastern philosophy and is related to the idea that we can transform our energy and emotions. In the context of grief, transmutation refers to the process of transforming the energy of grief into something else that is functional and meaningful.

Source

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Source · PODCAST
Healing From Grief & Loss | Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor
Andrew Huberman · 2025
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