Make a large ask first so your real request looks like a generous concession.
Influence: Science and Practice · Robert B. Cialdini
Agents must clear three gates before changing how we work: builder-friendliness, trust, and universal authorship.
Everything You Need to Know About AI Agents · Swami Sivasubramanian
Never walk into a pay negotiation with just one number — always have three asks ranked.
HR Expert: How To Negotiate A Pay Rise · Wayne Clarke
Past performance + future vision + the ask + collaborative question
What Successful Negotiators Do Differently | Kathryn Valentine | TED · Kathryn Valentine
Build a profitable sustainable business by rejecting growth-at-all-costs and embracing intentional constraints
Jason Fried Interview | The Tim Ferriss Show (Podcast) · Jason Fried
Build mentor relationships through small asks, value creation, and the Ben Franklin Effect
Ryan Holiday on Stoicism, Strategy, and Life · Ryan Holiday
Solve problems with psychology before engineering for 10x cheaper results
Perspective is Everything · Rory Sutherland
Add a personal touch
Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur · Derek Sivers
Communicate Effectively
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - PDFDrive.com · Marshall B. Rosenberg
Requesting concrete actions
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - PDFDrive.com · Marshall B. Rosenberg
Communicate with compassion
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - PDFDrive.com · Marshall B. Rosenberg
Focus on effectiveness
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well · Douglas Stone
Three diagnostic questions and a practical game to identify your primary love language and your partner's
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts · Gary Chapman
Every person has a primary love language that, when spoken, fills their emotional love tank and makes them feel genuinely loved
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts · Gary Chapman
Seven coaching questions that help you say less, ask more, and lead better
The Coaching Habit · Michael Bungay Stanier
Get users to store value so they cannot leave without losing something
Hooked · Nir Eyal
Uncover the real motivation behind what customers say they want you to build
The Mom Test · Rob Fitzpatrick
Unlock group generosity by making requests visible and help freely available
Give and Take · Adam Grant
Engineer situations where people genuinely want to do what you need them to do
How to Win Friends and Influence People · Dale Carnegie
Replace judgment with understanding to disarm defensiveness and build trust
How to Win Friends and Influence People · Dale Carnegie
Separate the vital few from the trivial many and deliberately procrastinate on everything else.
Eat That Frog! 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time · Brian Tracy