The Emotional Math Framework
Emotions play a huge role in the gap between how others see us and how we assume we are seen
This framework highlights the importance of recognizing how emotions can influence our perceptions and interactions with others. By becoming more aware of our emotional math, we can better understand how others perceive us and improve our relationships.
- Emotions play a huge role in the gap between how others see us and how we assume we are seen.
- We tend to subtract certain emotions from the equation, while others count them double.
- Self-awareness is key to recognizing and managing our emotional math.
- Recognize the power of emotionsUnderstand that emotions can convey emotions and intentions, often unconsciously. Become aware of how others may be reading our emotions.Pro tipPractice self-reflection and ask for feedback from trusted others to gain insight into our emotions.WarningBe cautious not to overanalyze or misinterpret others' emotions.
- Develop self-awarenessCultivate self-awareness by recognizing our emotions and thoughts. Practice mindfulness and self-reflection to better understand our internal experiences.Pro tipKeep a journal or engage in regular self-reflection to increase awareness of our emotions and thoughts.WarningAvoid self-criticism and focus on developing a non-judgmental awareness of our internal experiences.
- Manage our emotional mathLearn to manage our emotions and nonverbal cues. Practice relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, to reduce stress and anxiety.Pro tipUse positive self-talk and affirmations to help manage our emotions.WarningBe aware of our surroundings and the people we interact with, as our emotions can be influenced by our environment.
Sasha is unaware of the impact of her emotions on her relationships. She is surprised when her friend describes her as'self-obsessed and victim-y.'
Annabelle's emotions convey her frustration and disappointment, even when she tries to hide them. Her colleagues pick up on these cues and perceive her as deceptive and manipulative.
The concept of emotional math is rooted in the idea that humans are wired to experience and express emotions. This framework is based on the understanding that our emotions can betray our thoughts and feelings, even when we try to hide them.