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The Emotional Math Framework

Emotions play a huge role in the gap between how others see us and how we assume we are seen

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Individuals seeking to improve their self-awareness and emotional intelligence

Not ideal for

Those who are not open to feedback or self-reflection

Overview

Why this framework exists

This framework highlights the importance of recognizing how emotions can influence our perceptions and interactions with others. By becoming more aware of our emotional math, we can better understand how others perceive us and improve our relationships.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Emotions play a huge role in the gap between how others see us and how we assume we are seen.
  2. We tend to subtract certain emotions from the equation, while others count them double.
  3. Self-awareness is key to recognizing and managing our emotional math.

Steps

3 steps
  1. Recognize the power of emotions
    Understand that emotions can convey emotions and intentions, often unconsciously. Become aware of how others may be reading our emotions.
    Pro tipPractice self-reflection and ask for feedback from trusted others to gain insight into our emotions.
    WarningBe cautious not to overanalyze or misinterpret others' emotions.
  2. Develop self-awareness
    Cultivate self-awareness by recognizing our emotions and thoughts. Practice mindfulness and self-reflection to better understand our internal experiences.
    Pro tipKeep a journal or engage in regular self-reflection to increase awareness of our emotions and thoughts.
    WarningAvoid self-criticism and focus on developing a non-judgmental awareness of our internal experiences.
  3. Manage our emotional math
    Learn to manage our emotions and nonverbal cues. Practice relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, to reduce stress and anxiety.
    Pro tipUse positive self-talk and affirmations to help manage our emotions.
    WarningBe aware of our surroundings and the people we interact with, as our emotions can be influenced by our environment.

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Examples

2 cases
Sasha's story

Sasha is unaware of the impact of her emotions on her relationships. She is surprised when her friend describes her as'self-obsessed and victim-y.'

OutcomeSasha's lack of self-awareness leads to misunderstandings and conflict with her loved ones.
Annabelle's story

Annabelle's emotions convey her frustration and disappointment, even when she tries to hide them. Her colleagues pick up on these cues and perceive her as deceptive and manipulative.

OutcomeAnnabelle's relationships with her colleagues suffer due to her lack of self-awareness and inability to manage her emotional math.

Common mistakes

3 traps
Ignoring the power of emotions
Failing to recognize the importance of emotions can lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications.
Overanalyzing others' emotions
Misinterpreting or overanalyzing others' emotions can lead to incorrect assumptions and conflict.
Lacking self-awareness
Failing to develop self-awareness can make it challenging to recognize and manage our emotional math.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The concept of emotional math is rooted in the idea that humans are wired to experience and express emotions. This framework is based on the understanding that our emotions can betray our thoughts and feelings, even when we try to hide them.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well
Douglas Stone · 2014
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