Dismantle Distortions Framework
Keep feedback in perspective
This framework helps individuals become aware of their tendency to distort feedback and systematically dismantle those distortions. By doing so, they can regain their balance and engage with feedback in a more productive way.
- Become aware of your distortions and patterns
- Systematically dismantle distortions
- Regain balance and engage with feedback productively
- Identify DistortionsBecome aware of your tendency to distort feedback and identify the patterns you follow.Pro tipKeep a journal to track your thoughts and feelings when receiving feedbackWarningBe honest with yourself, and avoid blaming others for your distortions
- Dismantle DistortionsSystematically dismantle your distortions by challenging your thoughts and assumptions.Pro tipSeek feedback from trusted sources to gain new perspectivesWarningAvoid becoming defensive or dismissive of feedback
- Regain BalanceRegain your balance and engage with feedback in a more productive way.Pro tipPractice self-compassion and acknowledge your strengthsWarningAvoid dwelling on past mistakes or perceived shortcomings
Laila's Story
Laila, a highly sensitive person, distorts feedback and struggles to receive it. By becoming aware of her distortions and dismantling them, she is able to regain her balance and engage with feedback more productively.
OutcomeLaila improves her ability to receive and act on feedback, leading to personal and professional growth
Not being aware of distortions
Failing to recognize your distortions can lead to continued misinterpretation of feedback
Not dismantling distortions
Failing to challenge and dismantle distortions can lead to continued negative patterns
Not regaining balance
Failing to regain balance can lead to continued struggle with receiving feedback
The framework is based on the idea that people often distort feedback due to their wiring, life experiences, or both. By understanding and addressing these distortions, individuals can improve their ability to receive and act on feedback.
Source · BOOK
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well