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Second Score Framework

Give yourself a second score

Problem it solves

limiting beliefs

Best for

Individuals seeking to improve their resilience and receive feedback effectively

Not ideal for

Those who are not open to feedback and coaching

Overview

Why this framework exists

The Second Score Framework is about giving yourself a second score based on how you handle the first score. By focusing on the second score, individuals can learn to receive feedback in a way that is constructive and supportive of growth and development.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Give yourself a second score based on how you handle the first score.
  2. Focus on the second score to learn and grow.
  3. Recognize that the second score is often more important than the first score.

Steps

1 steps
  1. Give Yourself a Second Score
    Give yourself a second score based on how you handle the first score, and focus on the second score to learn and grow.
    Pro tipKeep a journal to track your feedback and give yourself a second score.
    WarningDon't get defensive or dismissive of feedback that is evaluative - this can limit your ability to learn and grow.

Checklist

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Examples

1 cases
Melinda's YouTube Video

Melinda and her partner Mel create a YouTube video that gets savaged by critics. While Mel becomes defensive and angry, Melinda uses the feedback as an opportunity to learn and improve, giving herself a second score based on how she handles the first score.

OutcomeMelinda learns to receive feedback in a way that is constructive and supportive of growth and development, and becomes more effective in her videos.

Common mistakes

1 traps
Focusing Too Much on the First Score
Focusing too much on the first score can limit your ability to learn and grow, and reinforce fixed assumptions.

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The concept of giving yourself a second score is rooted in the idea that feedback can be either evaluative or coaching-oriented. By recognizing the difference, individuals can learn to receive feedback in a way that is constructive and supportive of growth and development.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well
Douglas Stone · 2014
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