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The Coaching Relationship Framework

Coaching is a relationship, not a meeting

Problem it solves

poor communication

Best for

Managers and team leaders who want to improve their coaching skills

Not ideal for

Those who are not open to feedback or growth

Overview

Why this framework exists

This framework emphasizes the importance of ongoing discussion and trust in the coaching relationship. It highlights the need for coaches and coachees to work together to identify areas for improvement and to create a safe and supportive environment for growth.

Core principles

3 total
  1. Coaching is a relationship, not a meeting
  2. Trust and safety are essential for effective coaching
  3. Coaches and coachees must work together to identify areas for improvement

Steps

3 steps
  1. Establish a coaching relationship
    Establish a relationship with the coachee based on trust and mutual respect. This involves creating a safe and supportive environment for growth and development.
    Pro tipBe open and honest in your communication, and encourage the coachee to do the same
    WarningAvoid giving unsolicited advice or trying to fix the coachee's problems
  2. Identify areas for improvement
    Work with the coachee to identify areas where they would like to improve. This involves setting goals and developing a plan for achieving them.
    Pro tipUse open-ended questions to encourage the coachee to reflect on their strengths and weaknesses
    WarningAvoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions about the coachee's needs
  3. Provide feedback and support
    Provide feedback and support to the coachee as they work towards their goals. This involves offering guidance and encouragement, as well as helping the coachee to overcome obstacles and challenges.
    Pro tipFocus on specific behaviors and actions, rather than making general statements or criticisms
    WarningAvoid being too critical or negative, as this can undermine the coachee's confidence and motivation

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Examples

1 cases
Sara's coaching experience

Sara, a first-year consultant, was struggling to receive feedback from her partner. She felt like she was being criticized and judged, rather than coached and supported. However, when she asked her partner to provide more feedback and guidance, she began to feel more confident and motivated.

OutcomeSara was able to improve her performance and achieve her goals, thanks to the support and guidance of her partner

Common mistakes

3 traps
Failing to establish a coaching relationship
Failing to establish a relationship with the coachee based on trust and mutual respect can lead to a lack of engagement and motivation
Giving unsolicited advice
Giving unsolicited advice can come across as pushy or controlling, and can undermine the coachee's autonomy and confidence
Focusing too much on evaluation
Focusing too much on evaluation can lead to a lack of emphasis on growth and development, and can create a culture of fear and defensiveness

Origin story

How this framework came to be

The framework is based on the idea that coaching is not just a meeting, but a relationship that requires ongoing effort and commitment. It is rooted in the concept of growth identity and the importance of creating a culture of learners.

Source

Traced to primary
Source · BOOK
Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well
Douglas Stone · 2014
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